asexuality & aromanticism

If you know me at all, you probably know I’m aromantic and asexual. I’ve received tons of questions/comments on that, ranging from “isn’t that just celibacy?” to “do you still want a relationship?” and “every human being wants sex.” Believe me – it was just as confusing for me to figure it out as it is for allosexual/alloromantic people (aka, people who do feel sexual/romantic attraction) to get that I don’t feel the way they do.

There’s no warm happy fuzzy feelings when I see someone cute. If I DO think someone’s cute, it’s from an aesthetic point of view. And no, that’s not the same as romantic or sexual attraction – otherwise I’d be bi, seeing as I have swishes (aesthetic crushes, and yes, the name is funny) on both John Boyega and Daisy Ridley. Do I want to date either of them? No. Do I want to wake up in the morning next to them and make pancakes? No. Do I think they’re both very pretty and good actors and wish I could somehow manage to capture how they look in my writing or in some other form of art? Yes, yes I do.

So, with further (or is it no further?) ado, here are some Frequently Asked Questions I’ve answered, and my explanations!

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